Quiet Revolutionary: The Power of Introverts

Our world prizes extroverts -- but Susan Cain makes a case for the quiet and contemplative.

It's been a week of ongoing struggle. My spirit wants solitude, apparent this past week by my FB statuses of "I feel quiet and low key" but something within me is fighting it, arguing that "That can't be normal!" Today, I said "This is scary!" ... And then I hide my statuses, so as not to seem out of the 'ordinary' of what people expect of me. ... And sometimes, I just want to be ordinary, no expectations, a no-show! ... But at this point, the only thing my spirit is battling with is my ego.

Which reminds me, a few years ago, a FB friend who got to know me from social media, commented to the effect after a rant that I had had then, "Oh my gosh, you are always happy! So why post when you're mad?" First off, wrong footing to step with me, 'cause SHE DID NOT KNOW ME!  ... And I thought, "Are you crazy? Am I always supposed to be jolly, never to be angry?"  ... I deleted her. My mental reasoning ... "I am multi-dimensional ... not some straight without fault - flat line, which medically would mean, dead!"

After much thought and observation, I've had some sort of awareness since Trinidad Carnival. Totally fed up with the numerous photo tags and comments under various pictures, flashing across my ticker newsfeed. Annoyed with irrelevant conversation. Pathetic also ... those who prey on women by taking their pictures, just to add them later to their list of FB friends, until the next carnival and the cycle begins. The modern day black-book. And the 'flattered flying fish' - groped egos, simply 'cause he /she was complimented! Shocked by the desperation of some to be in 'carnival magazines' and excited at the sight of 'the size' of their shot in such magazines.

So I've been asking, "Why does it seem like everyone wants to 'STAR'? ... and is this for real the imaginary limelight!? 'Cause this is all a bunch of B-S!  So what's wrong with me?" ... And more and more, the rebel in me is not looking to be validated by others, or pretend to like someone or something and certainly not willing to be a kiss ass. So I'm taking a back seat!

And as for those mentioned, all that 'STUFF' ... "I SEE WEAK PEOPLE! I SEE FAKE PEOPLE. Questionable characters. No individuality. A crowd of followers and not leaders. No rock the boat, BOATERS!  No tell them, where to hold it. No cojones! Yes. No balls! People who look as if they've sold their souls and would probably look to sell mine too. Simply cause everyone wants to be liked which is troubling."

So thanks to my friend's FB post The Power of Introverts by Susan Cain, I got an answer good enough for me to live with! So this introversion may just be normal, after all. This was my spiritual minute since it's all been weighing heavily on my mind.

"In a culture where being social and outgoing are prized above all else, it can be difficult, even shameful, to be an introvert. But, as Susan Cain argues in this passionate talk, introverts bring extraordinary talents and abilities to the world, and should be encouraged and celebrated."

It left me thinking of my daughter for some reason. How do I want to encourage and raise her? Do I want to be a Kris Jenner (Kim K.'s mom) or allow her to be every ounce of introverted when her natural self needs it?  

So even if I am extroverted tomorrow, my introverted self ... SPOKE UP tonight!

... And may I change the title of the book to read, 

"The Power of Introverts in A World Where Everyone Wants Attention!"

*Flattered Flying Fish ... a poem I learnt at school when I was 7 years old

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